Sometimes I read great articles with advice on how to let go of the past, forgive the old wounds and put a happy face on. To be honest, I am like that 90% of the time, and yet there is still 10% that is very human in my stubbornness to be right and to hold on to the thoughts that only make me feel worse. Now, we are all pretty sane people, so why do we do things that hurt us?
A few days ago I was working on letting go of the anger towards someone I know. After thinking about the past and realizing that is all gone, I could see that being angry and not forgiving wasn't serving me any good. In fact, the negativity was only hurting me. I got that. Yet, I couldn't just drop it. Sound familiar? A revelation came to me a few short hours later that I hope will help you truly forgive, let go and be happy.
Later that day, I was getting ready for an event and had to pick out an outfit. I tried the first one on, looked in the mirror and dismissed it -- it was too heavy for the weather. Second seemed to be too summery, so that went out of consideration. Then, I found a dress that fit great, was perfect for the occasion and it made me happy. Out of the three, the last one was an obvious choice. Who would want to wear something that doesn't make you feel good, right? Well, what about "wearing" our thoughts and actions?
If you can't let go of the past, then first analyze your thinking process when it comes to selecting clothes. Ask yourself - why do I choose to wear things that make me feel good? Why don't I like things that make me feel bad? That are too tight? Too heavy? Etc. Once you have those answers written down, ask yourself why you choose to "wear" thoughts that make you feel bad? That bring you down? You may be surprised to know that in some way not letting go actually makes you feel good! And that will be your answer -- until holding on to the past stops feeling good, you won't be able to drop it.
My guess is that we often hold on to the past because we are comfortable there, because it is familiar and because want to be "right" in our opinion on how we think it should have happened. That's great. Who doesn't want to be right? However, here is the catch. The thought of "being right" is the equivalent of owning a Hermes handbag without handles and a whole on the bottom -- costs too much money and it is worthless. The only difference is that "being right" costs you your happiness and that is something no money can buy.
We all want to be comfortable and we all want to believe in something. Why not chose to believe in a happy life? What is so comfortable in keeping a grudge?
So, in the end, the only dilemma you really need to solve is: do you choose to be right or do you choose to be happy? Once you make a conscious choice to be happy, you will feel all the love in your heart to let go of things that weren't serving that purpose. Today, take 30 minutes of your day and clear up the past to open up space for an exciting new future. Write down your thoughts. Read them over. Make your choice. We only live once, so you might as well choose feel fabulous!
A few days ago I was working on letting go of the anger towards someone I know. After thinking about the past and realizing that is all gone, I could see that being angry and not forgiving wasn't serving me any good. In fact, the negativity was only hurting me. I got that. Yet, I couldn't just drop it. Sound familiar? A revelation came to me a few short hours later that I hope will help you truly forgive, let go and be happy.
Later that day, I was getting ready for an event and had to pick out an outfit. I tried the first one on, looked in the mirror and dismissed it -- it was too heavy for the weather. Second seemed to be too summery, so that went out of consideration. Then, I found a dress that fit great, was perfect for the occasion and it made me happy. Out of the three, the last one was an obvious choice. Who would want to wear something that doesn't make you feel good, right? Well, what about "wearing" our thoughts and actions?
If you can't let go of the past, then first analyze your thinking process when it comes to selecting clothes. Ask yourself - why do I choose to wear things that make me feel good? Why don't I like things that make me feel bad? That are too tight? Too heavy? Etc. Once you have those answers written down, ask yourself why you choose to "wear" thoughts that make you feel bad? That bring you down? You may be surprised to know that in some way not letting go actually makes you feel good! And that will be your answer -- until holding on to the past stops feeling good, you won't be able to drop it.
My guess is that we often hold on to the past because we are comfortable there, because it is familiar and because want to be "right" in our opinion on how we think it should have happened. That's great. Who doesn't want to be right? However, here is the catch. The thought of "being right" is the equivalent of owning a Hermes handbag without handles and a whole on the bottom -- costs too much money and it is worthless. The only difference is that "being right" costs you your happiness and that is something no money can buy.
We all want to be comfortable and we all want to believe in something. Why not chose to believe in a happy life? What is so comfortable in keeping a grudge?
So, in the end, the only dilemma you really need to solve is: do you choose to be right or do you choose to be happy? Once you make a conscious choice to be happy, you will feel all the love in your heart to let go of things that weren't serving that purpose. Today, take 30 minutes of your day and clear up the past to open up space for an exciting new future. Write down your thoughts. Read them over. Make your choice. We only live once, so you might as well choose feel fabulous!
